Skip to main content

Are You Scarring Your Children Due To Divorce?

Some individuals resolve to stay in their marriage for their children. They want to break free and to start a new life but they don’t. They may later discover that they didn’t do their children any favors by staying in the relationship. They certainly weren’t happy and chances are everyone in the household was suffering because of what was going on emotionally.

Effect of divorce on kids

The amount of damage that is going on right now for many children due to marital problems needs to be addressed. They are subjected to seeing verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. They may see affection or money withheld in order to exhibit complete control over the other party. None of these issues are good for children to be seeing and you better believe they will leave memories of a very unhappy childhood.

It is the emotional state of children that often keep people in a marriage when they want out though. They have heard all the horror stories about children with trust issues and relationship issues due to their parents being divorced. Yet it isn’t the fact that their parents are divorced that caused the problems. Rather it is often due to how things were handled before, during, and after the divorce.

It is often the actions of parents that are inappropriate and that damage children when a divorce takes place. The image of seeing your mom call your dad hateful names or of your father throwing dishes isn’t something that a child will soon forget. There are going to be rocky issues to deal with surrounding a divorce but do your best to shield your children from seeing them.

Children are going to pick up on the tension that is there between you and your ex spouse. They are going to be in the line of fire if there is still a great deal of unresolved conflict going on. It can be very unhealthy for them to see such issues taking place. It is possible to divorce someone and still have a decent relationship with them. It is possible for you to work as a team to do what is best for the children.

If you can work out details of the divorce so that the children are well cared for it will prevent them from being scarred. Messy divorces where both parties are blaming the other and getting the children in the middle of it aren’t going to benefit anyone at all. Never say hurtful things about your ex in front of your children. That person is still their parent and someone they both love and respect.

Make sure you take the time to talk to your children from their point of view about the divorce. Let them have some control over the direction those conversations take. They may have questions and you need to answer them. It is okay to let them see your emotions during the divorce as well. Just make sure you reassure them that everything is going to be fine. As long as they feel loved and safe they will be able to get through the divorce without ongoing problems.

You won’t be scarring your children if you do end up divorced. You do need to make sure you are well aware of how they are going to be affected though. You want to know what to expect so you can be there to meet the needs of your children. Make sure they know they can come to either parent for anything they need. You also need to consider your own actions. Make sure you are fully aware of how they will influence your children.

There are many well adjusted adults out there in our society that do have parents that divorced. They will be the first to tell you that the situation was for the better for everyone involved. It is refreshing to know that because the decision to divorce is one that doesn’t come easily. Yet if it is the right decision for your family then you just need to put the needs of your children first.

Check out Michael Webb's "1000 Questions For Couples" book to help improve your marriage.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

How To Choose A Fishing Rod And How To Make It Last

No sportsman wins by sheer talent alone. No matter how talented a sportsman is, if his equipment is not good enough, his chances of winning will remain slim. That is because his equipment will hinder rather than help his game. A runner needs good shoes to run. A bowler needs a bowling ball that weighs and fits right in his hand. The same goes with a fisherman and his fishing rod.

Fishing is a sport that many people find enjoyable. It is always a challenge to get the elusive fish to bite the bait, and sitting still for hours on the end just to be able to catch fish can be very relaxing. But regardless of the challenge and the relaxation that fishing offers, the goal of fishing is still to catch some fish. Barring bad luck and circumstances that are really unfavorable for fishing, a good fishing rod is necessary for a good catch.

If you are a beginner at fishing, it is perfectly all right to use a simple fishing rod and reel – nothing spiffy and nothing fancy. When you are jus…

Top 5 Costume Ideas For Nigerians Attending A Halloween Party

Halloween, an annual holiday celebrated on the 31st of October in several countries around the world, including Australia, Canada and the United States of America, is not a Nigerian culture and has never been announced as an official holiday in the country. However, thanks to Nigeria’s love for anything “western world” and their proclivity for revelry, some people in the country are now seen dressed up in elaborate costumes and trick or treating around major cities on Halloween day every October.

This year, from Club Illusion’s Halloween party set to hold on Friday 28th October at Concord Owerri to Halloween Party – THE LIGHTHOUSE, holding Saturday 29th October 2016 at Marina Lagos, there are so many events already lined up for Halloween. And with the D-day fast approaching, we at Nigeria World News know that it’s crunch time for finding the perfect costume. Given that we know your costume is preying on your mind, we have come up with unique ideas for costumes that can reflect the Ni…

5 Reasons Men Cheat On Their Partners

Are you a woman who suspects that your man is cheating on you? If you do, you may be interested in catching them in the act. But, first, you may have a number of questions. One of the most common questions asked by women who have been cheated on is “why do men cheat?”


When it comes to determining why men cheat on their wives or their girlfriends, it is difficult to come up with an exact reason. Why? Because men cheat for a wide range of different reasons. For example, your boyfriend may cheat for one reason, but one another man may be cheating for a whole other reason.

Despite the fact that it is difficult to determine exactly why men cheat, namely your man, there are a number of common reasons. These reasons, a few of which are highlighted below, may be the cause of your cheating husband or boyfriend.
To Get Out of a Relationship

What do you do when you decide that you went to end a relationship? If you are like many other women, you breakup with your boyfriend or ask for a d…